Because crying would show that you have feelings — and feelings scare men off. But is this really true? And allowing yourself to be seen means making yourself vulnerable. In her research, Brown found that the main thing that keeps us disconnected from each other — the thing that prevents us from letting ourselves be vulnerable — is shame.
So we shut ourselves off, and then we wonder why our relationships continue to fail. When we numb those, we numb joy, we numb happiness. So, what are we supposed to do with all of that information? Start bursting into tears every time we feel the urge, rather than swallowing them back? Now discussing emotional topics is just as important as playing games and fishing with his kids and discussing manners, respect and hard work. It releases oxytocin and endorphins, feel-good chemicals that can help ease both physical and emotional pain.
The experts to whom I spoke stressed that the more kids see adults in their lives crying and bouncing back, the less stigmatized tears become. Here are a few more guidelines I learned. Children, especially younger ones, are essentially egocentric. That means not hiding your tears, but also not subjecting kids to extreme anger or sadness. Rather than demonstrating the natural inclination to comfort a loved one in a moment of emotion, a child may begin to bear the burden of making the parent feel better.
If they do offer comfort, thank your child with a big grin and let them know that you are OK and have other adults around to support you. Last week, after a stressful day, I felt that familiar sensation in my chest and cheeks. The tears came, and this time, instead of fighting the feeling, I greeted it with humor. Product Reviews. Humans have complicated emotions that require us to be vulnerable to the people around us. If we can't surround ourselves with such people, there's no point in being friends with them or dating them.
Crying in front of your partner doesn't mean you're trying to create a scene, it only means that you love him and trust him enough to be vulnerable in front of him. Here's why that can be a good thing.
Take a look. If you didn't care about your relationship, you wouldn't bother showing any sort of emotions related to it. The fact that you cry in front of your partner shows that you love and trust him and can be vulnerable in front of him. For better or for worse, that's how those marriage vows go.
But honestly, this statement should apply to relationships as well. Your partner needs to be there for you during good times and bad which is why he also should be there for you when you shed those tears in front of him.
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